3544 N. Romero Road, Suite 112, Tucson, Arizona 85705
Pet Loss & Grief Support
"You were my favorite hello and my hardest goodbye."
We know losing your companion is difficult and we want to help you. We’ve been through it ourselves and we understand. At Kindred Spirits, we are available to talk to and advise you. We can be a comforting resource by answering your questions, helping you select keepsakes or just listening to a story. Whatever you need, we will help you through this difficult time.
Self Care During The Grieving Process
Grief can affect every aspect of your being. Therefore, your emotional, physical, cognitive, social, and spiritual needs must be nurtured in order to work through grief and to heal.
The following are some suggestions on how you might begin the process of self-care. You may find that improving in one aspect makes you feel better in others, or that certain behaviors help in more than one area. This is because they cannot really be separated; each is somewhat dependent on the others and all are crucial in healing and maintaining your general good health.
Emotional – Emotional care involves expressing and acknowledging your pain.
- Talk with someone who understands the relationship you had with your pet and how much you are hurting
- Join a Pet Loss Support Group
- Write down your feelings in a journal or in a letter to your loved-one
- Create a scrapbook or photograph album of your pet
- Use your artistic abilities such as drawing, painting, or sculpting to express your feelings
Physical – Physical care is done to keep your body healthy. Grief can deplete your energy and make you extremely susceptible to illness and disease.
- Eat healthy foods
- Exercise
- Avoid using alcohol or drugs as a means of “feeling better”
- Try to get enough sleep
Cognitive – Cognitive functioning can be extremely impaired by grief. Try stimulating yourself intellectually to improve your memory, concentration, and other cognitive abilities.
- Read books and other information that will help you to understand what you are going through (see our suggested reading list)
- Talk with others who have been through a similar experience and learn what was helpful for them
- Social contacts and establishing a support network are extremely important to help us not feel so alone.
- Find a healthy balance between the time you need alone and being with others
- Join a pet-loss support group
- Although not everyone will understand your grief, having a couple of close friends or family members who are supportive will help tremendously
Spiritual – Spiritual care involves doing things that you enjoy, that connect you with nature, and being kind to yourself. Some people refer to this as working in your “heart zone.” Spiritual care can, but does not have to, include your religious beliefs or your philosophy on life.
- Take a long walk
- Take a long bath or shower
- Light a candle in memory of your pet
- Get a massage, facial, pedicure, or anything that makes you feel good about yourself
- Think about your philosophy of an afterlife for animals and talk with others who believe similarly to you
- Call a friend you haven’t spoken with for a long time
- Do something kind for someone else
- Meditate
- Do something kind for other animals or for an animal cause
Why Choose Kindred Spirits Pet Services & Grief Support
We understand & care
Grief is not an illness; it is the natural sequel to love. Unlike the medical model of grief care, the companioning model does not seek to treat or cure but rather bear witness, learn, and accompany.
Flexibility
Grievers are the experts of their own experience. Companions offer a safe space, an open heart, affirmation, and hope. We want to help you the way you need to be helped; with resources, one on one or in a group setting.
Our Experience
Dr. Kellie Barrett is certified in Death & Grief studies with the Center for Loss and Life Transition under the supervision and direction of Dr. Alan Wolfelt. Over 200 hours of continuing education in the death & grief trainings, Dr. Barrett can provide pet loss companioning to people who are grieving the loss of their pets.
Coming in Summer 2025...Kindred Spirits Pet Loss Support
Pet Loss Companioning
Pet Loss Companioning
Pet Loss Companioning
Dr. Barrett will provide personalized support to individuals seeking a compassionate heart, a sacred space, and a loving ear to share their feelings and emotions surrounding the death of their beloved pet. She will honor the pet’s story and walk alongside individuals as they move from grief into mourning.
Support can occur via phone, zoom, in-office or in-home sessions. Individual companioning support does not take the place of a licensed mental health counselor/therapist. Dr. Barrett will be following Dr. Wolfelt’s companioning model, not counseling.
Appointments will be available in summer 2025.
Pet Loss Grief Groups
Pet Loss Companioning
Pet Loss Companioning
Dr. Barrett will provide a sacred space for families to share their feelings and emotions regarding the loss of their beloved pet. Family and friends may not understand what you are going through and a support group can provide a place to come together with others who are also grieving the loss of their furry friends.
The Pet Loss support group will follow an educational and sharing structure. Designed to follow the companioning model, Dr. Barrett will lead the group through the book Understanding Your Grief by Dr. Alan Wolfelt and discuss the Ten Essential Touchstones for Finding Hope and Healing Your Heart. The 10-week, 90-minute session support group will include an educational component, group sharing, with recommended journal and reflection activities designed to help individuals through their grief journey.
Grief groups will begin to be scheduled in summer 2025
Pet Loss & Grief Books
The Loss of a Pet
When Your Pet Dies
When Your Pet Dies
by Wallace Sife, PhD
When Your Pet Dies
When Your Pet Dies
When Your Pet Dies
by Alan D. Wolfelt, PhD
Goodbye Friend
When Your Pet Dies
Cold Nose at the Pearly Gates
by Gary Kowalski
Cold Nose at the Pearly Gates
Cold Nose at the Pearly Gates
Cold Nose at the Pearly Gates
by Gary Kurz
Wagging Tails in Heaven
Cold Nose at the Pearly Gates
Wagging Tails in Heaven
by Gary Kurz
Pet Parents
Cold Nose at the Pearly Gates
Wagging Tails in Heaven
by Coleen Ellis
Children's books
The Heaven of Animals
Saying Goodbye to Lulu
The Heaven of Animals
by Nancy Tillman
The Rainbow Bridge
Saying Goodbye to Lulu
The Heaven of Animals
by Adrian Raeside
Saying Goodbye to Lulu
Saying Goodbye to Lulu
Saying Goodbye to Lulu
by Corinne Demas
When a Pet Dies
I'll Always Love You
Saying Goodbye to Lulu
by Fred Rogers
I'll Always Love You
I'll Always Love You
I'll Always Love You
by Hans Wilhelm
When Your Pet Dies
I'll Always Love You
I'll Always Love You
by Victoria Ryan
My Forever Friend - Dog
My Forever Friend - Dog
My Forever Friend - Dog
by Dr. Mary Gardner & Coleen Ellis
My Forever Friend - Cat
My Forever Friend - Dog
My Forever Friend - Dog
by Dr. Mary Gardner & Coleen Ellis
Tess's Tributes
Tess's Tributes is a Facebook Group that allows members to post memorials for pets that have crossed to the Rainbow Bridge. Kindred Spirits Pet Services want to hear your pet stories and allow a forum to remember our loved ones. Tess's Tributes also contains posts about grief and memorializing your pet. Join our group and share your cherished pet memories with us.
What can I do with my pet's belongings after they pass?
Cody's Friends accepts new and used pet supplies (bowls, toys, beds, crates, blankets, etc) and pet food. Cody's Friends supplies over 100 human and animal service groups in Southern Arizona. You can drop off donations at over 35 local businesses across Tucson.
The Southern Arizona Animal Food Bank collects and distributes free pet food and pet supplies to low income, unemployed, elderly and otherwise disadvantaged residents of Southern Arizona. They have a store and distribution center at 6212 E. Speedway Blvd.
Do Pets Grieve?
It is hard to know whether grief as we understand it is something that our companion animals feel when they lose a fellow four-legged friend. Since we cannot simply ask them how they are feeling, we can observe them for signs of grief. Several studies show that dogs grieve for their close canine companions.
Your pet simply knows that their friend is no longer present and may exhibit one or more symptoms of grief including:
- Withdrawal from people and other pets; acting withdrawn or despondent
- A lack of appetite or change in appetite
- Lethargic behavior and sleeping more than usual
- Unusually aggressive or destructive behaviors
- Calling out or vocalizing in an unusual way for the pet who died
- Searching for the pet within the home and other places frequented by the other pet; includes pacing
- Becoming very clingy to the owner and following the owner around
Things to Remember
- Some animals will show no signs of grief after the death of another pet in the house.
- Even for pets, grief is an individual process that will affect each one in a different way
What can I do to help my grieving pet?
♥ Stay positive: As hard as it is for you to cope with your own loss, talk to your remaining pets in a calm and upbeat voice as often as possible.
♥ Engage in new activities: Giving your pets something new to learn or focus on may help distract them from the loss and the uncertainty surrounding it. Dogs, especially, benefit from learning something new that will give them confidence in their pack position.
♥ Do more of what your pets already love to do. Getting to do something fun and enjoyable with you can go a long way toward helping your pet cope – and will help you feel better, too.
Helpful hint: While it is tempting to comfort your pets when they are showing signs of hurting, it’s important that you don’t try to soothe them while they are engaging in unwanted behaviors you don’t want to encourage.
How long does grief last in pets?
Like humans, the grieving process differs for each individual pet experiencing it, lasting weeks to months. Many things can affect the grieving process; including but not limited to the age and health of the pet, the relationship with the other pet, and the grieving process of the humans in the household. Your pet’s reaction to the loss should improve as the days/weeks go by. If this does not happen then you should contact your regular Veterinarian.
When should I notify my veterinarian?
If you notice that your pet is not returning to their “normal self”, especially if there are severe or persistent symptoms, it may be time to call your regular veterinarian for a check-up.
- Persistent lack of appetite
- Vomiting
- Diarrhea
- Lethargy
- Separation anxiety or depression
- Behavior issues
Should I get another animal as a companion for my pet?
This is the one of those questions for which you are the best person to answer. You know your pets better than anyone else and are most likely the one who knows best if another pet will make your current pet or pets feel better.
Some things you might consider when making this decision are:
- Is your pet very social?
- Is your pet used to having other animals around?
- Would another pet help your current pet to get more activity and exercise?
- If your current pet is now an only pet, how much time will it be spending alone if there is not another animal in the house?
- Are you and other family members ready to commit to and reinvest in another pet?
